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Vitamin D O.D.

I love summer.  I love the warmth, the sunshine, the vitamin D, the fresh fruits and vegetables, the activities, and the scenery.  I love the time with my kids and making memories with them.  (You can read more about all that in this post.)

But here I am, just over a week in, and feeling completely overwhelmed.  My head is swimming with everything I am trying and wanting to do.  I’m stressing about whether I’ll miss something on my summer ‘bucket list’ and deprive my children of some grand experience.  I’m trying to stay on top of my cleaning schedule in the midst of it all.  And did I mention that I’m potty training my youngest this week?  (We’re going hardcore this time – cold turkey on the diapers.  I suppose I’ll let you know how that goes.)

The biggest problem with becoming so overwhelmed is that my kids usually bear the brunt of it.  This morning, I certainly wasn’t the patient mama that I strive to be.  Sure, they were misbehaving, but I could have kept my cool a lot better if I hadn’t been feeling so stressed out.

Amongst the many things I am trying to do, I’m keeping a few plants in my backyard.  I have two planter boxes for vegetables.  Today, it was time to thin out the carrot and dill plants.  I’ve learned in my short years of vegetable growing a simple yet profound truth: less, is more.

I absolutely hate thinning them out.  I’ve watched them from before they were sprouts, and now, they’re perfectly good plants.  However, by the time I am done, I will have uprooted more than half of them.

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My itty bitty garden

And why do I do this?  So the few that are left can flourish, have room to grow, and bear more fruit than they would have if they were crowded out by countless others.

Life is a LOT like that.  If I try to do too much with my kids over the summer, we won’t have room to enjoy any one thing to its fullest potential.  Stress, exhaustion, and worry will crowd out the fruit that I am trying to grow: joy, positive interactions, rest, and renewed health.

Tomorrow, I will have to tell myself to simmer down.  I know I’ve got to let some stuff go.  I pray that I choose well – what to keep and nurture, and what to uproot.

How’s your summer going?  Do you have a ‘bucket list’?  Are there things that you are having to let go of for the time being?  I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

Warm wishes,

Lisa

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Cleaning House on Auto-Pilot

Ah, cleaning.  The necessary evil, some might say.  I’ve flip-flopped between having a good and bad attitude about it.  In the end – one way or another – it needs to get done.

The internet is loaded with housecleaning schedules and lists of all kinds.  We’ve all seen them on Pinterest.  As a younger mom, I found these schedules fairly helpful.  Because quite honestly, I wasn’t sure how often I should be doing all the different tasks.

After a while I made my own schedule, and put it up on the fridge.  I followed it pretty well, most of the time.  Then I had a second kid, and even the schedule I had made (as basic as it was) became a little too daunting.

These days, I work off of a list of priorities.  I knock off the things at the top of the list first, which are the most important (think: basic survival).  And then I work my way down, in-amongst the multiple interruptions that may occur throughout the day.  The things at the end of the list – truthfully, they don’t often get done.  Needless to say, my house is not sparkling clean.  But we stay fed, and clothed, and in a basically neat and sanitary space, as often as I can possibly manage.

Here are the things I keep on my mental list, in order of importance:

  • Dishes (there are always more)
  • Laundry (ditto)
  • Food (meal prep)
  • Tidy (put all/most of the things away)
  • Clean the bathrooms
  • Sweep or vacuum floors

Those 6 things, on a good week, I can keep up with for the most part.  When I have the luxury of moving beyond the basics, these are next:

  • Mop the floors
  • Wipe down kitchen cupboards and appliances
  • Organizational tasks (e.g. sorting through clothing)
  • Dust
  • Clean doors, windows, and walls

During the years of having a child under 3 at home, it is the exception (and not the rule) that I actually complete those final items on my list.  And for those of you who have more than one child under 3, well – bless your heart!

The nice thing is, after being a mom for a whopping 8 years, the list has become pretty automatic.  Which is helpful for me, because I do become overwhelmed with a lot of commotion, or when jobs pile up so high that I know I can’t possibly do them all.  My tendency, in those situations, would be to circle the house in a distracted and confused way, jumping from one task to the next and then forgetting what I was doing before.

Now, when I get to that overwhelmed place and can’t imagine laying eyes on a cleaning schedule of any sort (like really: just shoot me now), I flick on my auto-pilot.

Dishes, laundry, food.

Everything else will wait.

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And once I have a handle on those 3 things, I relax a little.  Any step beyond that is icing on the cake.  The further I move down the list, the more competent and relaxed I feel.

Sometimes I have a bad week, and I don’t move beyond the first 3.  Yikes.  This is when I take a deep breath, collect myself, and decide that I will be starting fresh on Monday.

Because, the cleaning will always be there.  My children won’t.  They’ll grow up, and move out, and the house will probably stay a lot cleaner.  But while they’re here, they need to be cared for and nurtured.  That takes a lot of time and effort.

So in the meantime, my husband and I put up with the stubbed toes (seriously, those toys are everywhere), sticky floors, and overflowing laundry baskets.  And no, it’s not always with a smile on the face.

I think other moms probably keep up with their houses better than I do.  But, I’ll keep on tryin’.  And besides, when it comes to loving my kids – that’s one job I know I’m best at.

What’s your housecleaning routine?  Do you like schedules, or hate them?  Any cleaning advice for me?

Warm wishes,

Lisa